Yes! I am All of That!
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Have you ever had someone crush your spirit with a single toxic phrase? That phrase was, "I bet you think you are all of that!" And let me tell you; it was a dream killer - especially as a child. Hearing those words felt like a punch to the gut. It was like someone told me I should never strive to be great - that I should dim my light and play small.
The first time I heard it was from a family member. I was eight years old! I remember feeling ashamed and confused. Was it wrong to think I was "all of that"? Was I supposed to think less of myself? That phrase stuck with me for years, through adolescence and into adulthood.
But what if we turned that accusation into a positive affirmation? What if we embraced the fact that we are all that and more?
In this blog, I will share my experience with this phrase and how it has helped me heal my relationship with my divine feminine energy.
My Childhood Experience
Growing up, I was always involved in my church. Every Sunday, Wednesday, and Saturday, you would find me there. I was a devout Christian, and I took pride in my faith. I loved serving in all areas of my church, from choir to youth group to cooking for the homeless. I was an active participant in all the church events, and people looked up to me for my dedication.
But, my grandmother never seemed to be impressed. She always found a way to criticize my devotion and tell me I needed to humble myself. At first, I brushed off her comments, thinking she was being her usual self. You know, the older generation is always preaching about humility and modesty.
However, her comments soon turned into screaming matches. Yes, you read that right. She would scream at me about how I thought I was better than everyone else and how I needed to come down from my high horse. Her verbal abuse was so severe that it left me scarred for life. I battled extreme anxiety that I still struggle with today.
It's hard to explain how hurtful those words were. The verbal abuse was so consistent that I started to believe I was the person she described. I would try to change my behavior, but nothing seemed to quell her jealousy and insecurity. As a young child, I didn't understand why my grandmother would treat me that way. I took her cruel words to heart, and my confidence plummeted.
Looking back, I realize that her comments did not reflect my character. Instead, her jealousy and hidden insecurities caused her to lash out at me. I understand that now, but the emotional scars still run deep. I wish I could tell my younger self I wasn't the problem. That my grandmother's words didn't define me, and her abuse wasn't my fault.
It took literal years of fighting that little voice in my mind – the one telling me I wasn't good enough, that I'd never be as incredible as she was – before I finally came out on top. It was an uphill battle, let me tell you. Every day, I had to wage war against my self-doubt and insecurities about who I was and what I was capable of.
But eventually, I came to a realization. Why was I letting someone else determine my worth? Why was I giving her the power to make me feel inferior? I had to take control of my thoughts and push back against the negativity.
It wasn't a quick fix, mind you. It took a lot of hard work to silence that voice inside my head. It meant acknowledging my strengths and talents – what made me unique and valuable – and actively working to build my confidence in those areas.
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The Power of Positive Self-Affirmation
When I started my healing journey, I had no idea about divine feminine and divine masculine energies. It wasn't even on my radar. But I did know that the verbal, mental, and emotional abuse I had grown up with was having a significant impact on my life. I felt like I needed to do something to heal my relationship with myself.
That's when I stumbled upon the power of positive self-affirmation. It wasn't an overnight transformation, but slowly but surely, I noticed a shift in my energy and views. Instead of constantly criticizing myself and feeling like I was never good enough, I started to celebrate my big and small accomplishments.
Through this practice, I began to recognize my worth and value, independent of external validation from others. I started seeing myself through a new lens, which was transformative. I was finally able to embrace my true self, flaws and all.
Looking back on my journey, I'm so grateful for this shift in perspective. I never would have thought that positive self-talk could be so powerful, but it truly is. And it's not just about building up our egos or feeling good. It's about taking care of ourselves and nurturing our souls. It's about healing from past trauma and building resilience for whatever challenges come our way.
If you struggle with negative self-talk, I encourage you to try positive self-affirmation. It may feel uncomfortable at first or even silly, but trust me; it can make a difference. You deserve to feel confident, worthy and loved. And sometimes, all it takes is a few kind words from yourself to get there.
Healing the Divine Feminine
Our society often downplays the importance of feminine energy and views it as inferior to masculine energy.
However, both energies are necessary for balance and harmony.
Hey everyone! Today, I want to discuss something that carries much weight for many women - healing our divine feminine. As I mentioned earlier, society has conditioned us to view feminine energy as inferior to masculine energy. This can lead us to believe that we need to be more masculine to succeed, which can be damaging in the long run.
I want to specifically address how Black women can fall trapped in this narrative and how we, in particular, need to work on healing our divine feminine. As Black women, many have had to deal with life circumstances that have forced us to be more masculine. Raising younger siblings at a young age could be a responsibility for some. This happened because my parents had to work long hours to make ends meet, so the responsibility of looking after my siblings fell on my shoulders. While it was a necessity then, it bred me to be more masculine and take on adult roles too early in life.
But it's not just about the individual experience, as this trend is passed down through generations. Many of the women before us were also forced to be more masculine due to circumstances they couldn't help, and as a result, they raised us to be the same way. This leads to an intergenerational cycle of Black women who are more masculine than we sometimes would like to be.
The unfortunate side effect of being too masculine is that it can spill over into other areas of life, particularly in love. Our high levels of responsibility and independence can sometimes make it hard for us to let go of control and allow ourselves to be vulnerable in romantic relationships. But we can work on reclaiming our divine feminine energy. It starts by releasing the guilt of not being perfect, prioritizing self-care, and celebrating ourselves for all that we are. We are more open to receiving love and nurturing our relationships when we love ourselves.
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Embrace Your Inner Goddess: Tap into Your All-That-Ness and Shine Bright
It's time to accept our all-encompassing nature with pride and confidence. As women, we often struggle with feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt, convincing ourselves that we are undeserving of happiness and success. But the truth is, we are phenomenal beings with abundant potential and the power to reach for the stars.
By cultivating positive self-affirmations, we can strengthen our relationship with our feminine energy and tap into the limitless potential that lies within us. Through a perspective of positivity, we can heighten our confidence levels and attract more abundance and positivity in our lives. It's time to celebrate ourselves and our worthiness every single day.
Taking hold of our lives and illuminating our paths with the brightness that radiates within us is crucial. We cannot allow anyone to dampen our light; we are meant to shine and thrive. At every moment, we must remind ourselves of the depth of our unique capabilities and talents to live our lives to the most total capacity. With positive self-talk, we unlock our potential and pave the way toward achieving our greatest aspirations.
As we embrace our greatness, we must support and empower one another as women. We are an exceptional group of individuals who can accomplish anything we set our minds to. It's time to elevate and uplift one another so we may all thrive and reach our highest potential.
So say it loud and proud, "Yes! I am all of that and more!" and watch your life transform miraculously. We are all incredible women with a remarkable capacity for greatness. Let's stand tall and embrace every facet of ourselves as we reach for the stars and achieve all the good things life offers.
